So what is a gal to do? Well… the only thing I could do obviously, which is interview the site’s owner, Ms. Krystal Bleu.
Let’s get down to the nitty gritty, which is the BIG question on everyone’s mind.. HOW can this type of shine up and indecent exposure of people personal bedroom business be legal??

Have you been contacted by an attorney representing any of the subjects (persons being accused) on the trinihomewreckers.com?

No I haven’t. I think this is because it would be difficult to sue me for defamation and slander. All our articles are submitted by persons directly affected. We ask all persons submitting to read our Terms of Service and Disclaimer. I’ve crossed all my I’s and dotted all my T’s. We DO NOT at any time print stories from third parties. Except of course for the Blind Items which reveal no names or pictures.

Upon launching the website did you have any fear that trinihomewreckers.com would do more harm than good?

I initially had some concerns, however the good that can come out of a website like this can outweigh the bad. We want to drive home the point that adultery/infidelity in marriages/relationships can have a life altering effect on those involved. Including the lives of children. I was asked by a Reader if she can be sued for submitting her story. I said sure you can, but your home wrecker will not have a leg to stand on in court if you tell the whole truth…

How do you decide which submission you will post on THW?

Stories are submitted via the website…. Most of the stories received are discarded because… they don’t make much sense. Some are not even relevant to this site…we receive all kinds of stories on a daily basis. On average I receive 20-30 submissions a day. I have received stories of persons who are accused of having HIV and are spreading it. I have received stories from wives who want to put their home wrecker on blast but want to write it as a third party. …I say NO. You either tell YOUR story, or you don’t. Some send me naked pics of alleged home wreckers whom they claim are sending their men these nudes.
Do you know any of the accused or persons submitting personally?
No. None.

Do you feel censorship is necessary in certain cases or, are you of a frame of mind that everyone has the right to practice free speech?

I believe that free speech is essential. However there is a thin line between free speech, slander and the actual truth. All I ask is that persons submit their own experiences, and ensure that it is their truth. I don’t believe anyone has the right to slander someone, just because they have a grouse with them.

What is the most memorable story someone has submitted to you which has stood out from the rest?

Oh I think that would be the ‘Mike’ story. I gotta say, when that story hit the net it went viral. Even though it was a sad story, it still taught us all a lesson. Wrap it up! Trust no one and get tested. Know your status and know the status of your partner before getting sexually involved with them. And even still, wrap it up. Especially if you’re not married.

Whew!! Just an fyi, the first story I read on Krystal’s site was the now infamous ‘Mike’ story…wow wow wow! I read and reread while being absolutely astonished. Take a gander and judge that one for yourself. The subject of the post has since closed his Facebook account only after posting negative HIV test results with the date obfuscated. As for the poster…ha! I personally believe her very own wild-life caught up to her, my granny once said, “Hard head make for soft bottom.” Again, you be the judge on that one.
Which ever side of the fence you stand with the previously mentioned story or any of the Joseline vs. MiMi type postings, THW will certainly leave you in a torn state yet hypnotized. Afterall, this is real life and these are REAL people with REAL rumpus!! Is the site too much or is it just right?

Why don’t you make the poster put up pics of themselves as well?

The whole purpose of persons venting online is being able to do so anonymously. I guess this is the reason most choose not to post pics of their significant other as well. They want to keep a low profile, so posting a pic of themselves is a big no no for them. They would never do it. I would welcome it if they do though.

If you have been indulging in this guilty pleasure by subscribing daily to THW as I have, you will have noticed there have been very candid photos accompanying some submissions…LOL! Laaawwd! Ladies…and Men please rethink the next time you hit send after your DIY centerfold. Please…LOL! For heavens sake..do!

How do you feel about the recent remarks made on certain facebook pages?

You know everyone has their opinion. I understand some of their concerns but at the end of the day, the onus is on the person posting their story on the site to tell a TRUE story. Its not libel if its the truth. One page in particular tried to blast us publicly but then send us emails asking us ‘kindly’ to remove a story about a particular young lady. It seems they feign concern about certain persons which make their concerns disingenuous.

Well…we reach yes… I personally like to refer to this particular situation Krystal speaks of as, ‘Captain Save-A-Ho syndrome’, people who take it upon themselves to swear for another individual’s sexual frequency and practice, but I will digress.
On the other hand, here is what Ms. Bleu has to say about the overall feedback:

Describe the…feedback and response to the site…

The feedback has been tremendous! It is heartening to know that the majority of the general public in T&T still value the sanctity of marriage, monogamy and family life. I have also been accused of creating this site for bacchanal purposes. Far from it.
It was highly amusing when a certain [Facebook] page tried to blast us up, but instead contributed to us gaining more fans on Facebook and boosting our site visits even more. Our readership has gone up a lot since and more are aware of the site simply because that page has a large following. I also find it quite hilarious yet hypocritical at the same time that they actually reposted the story on their page, which only served to further push the said person in the spotlight. Its like finding your nudes online and you post it to your Facebook page saying ‘Hey look, someone posted these nudes of me online, what kinda injustice is this? I want these people found and dealt with’
Recently the site was attacked twice by hackers, this goes to show the lengths some will go to keep secrets and the secrets of persons they know. Thankfully no damage was done to the site.

What is your overall goal for the website?

The overall goal for this website is to bring awareness to the havoc that adultery and infidelity can create. I also hope that Women especially are taught life lessons from persons who have been through it all, let them know that they are not alone. Respect the girl code!

Do you have any future plan for expansion of the website? Where do you see your brand going in 5 years?

Yes, I have already made exciting plans for the future of the website which I am holding close to my chest for now. I want it to be a surprise for the fans. I know they will love what I have in store for them. Stay tuned!

Have you ever been cheated on, horned as we would say…?

Ha! Haven’t we all?

And is that. THW has caught the attention of readers worldwide. The website launched in November of 2013 and has since grossed over 8 MILLION hits and counting with viewers in Canada, Jamaica, Barbados, France, Japan, Antigua and Barbuda, China, Germany to name a few, with Trinidad holding the top spot with 80% of the viewers.
Whether you choose to agree or disagree with Ms. Bleu’s motivation or the site’s content the proof is in the pudding, readers want MORE!!!

Be honest. Howbeit you admire the artistry of the surgeon *cough ahem* I meant to say, sheer athleticism, hard work, and dedication *side eye* you find yourself in utter amazement and disbelief at the drastic alteration and change in body proportions some are undergoing. Behold, hip/pelvic circumference which may’ve expanded from a 30- 32 at best, to a 40-42 all while sporting a 25 inch waist! Modern day marvels, whoi we reach!

Let me put the brakes on it before I even hear dis chupidness, “oh, you’re just a hater!” When it comes to this matter fortunately genetics are working in my favor, okay, good, next. Some time ago, while at work, I stumbled upon a conversation about the “Brazilian butt lift”, under the belief the topic was related to a new, trendy workout, so (me with mah fassness) I promptly elected myself to take part in the Brazilian Butt Lift. Needless to say, I received chuckles all around, and one glare. Apparently, the Brazilian Butt Lift is the latest trend in plastic surgery as it was explained to me.

Ladies, are we overly obsessed with our hindquarters and the level of desirability it may afford to a welcome admirer? To feel comfortable, you have to find the right fit, cut, rise in order to don a pair of jeans while feeling socially acceptable. If you try an article of clothing on, and do not see the desired line of demarcation from waist to hip it is not suitable to hang in your closet? As I scroll through my IG timeline, I find myself pondering on one body part in particular… ASS. Not the one attached to my own body per se, butt (pun intended) how significant the posterior is to our generation.

Check the stats: They don’t lie!

According to the American Center for Plastic Surgery, between 2000 and 2011, there was a 235% increase in the number of butt lifts utilizing fat grafting/fat transfer.There was a 38% increase in butt lifts in the one year period between 2010 and 2011. Between 2010 and 2011, the number of butt implant procedures rose by 43%. The percentage increase in the number of buttock augmentation procedures between 2010 and 2011 is among the highest of all cosmetic surgical and non-surgical procedures. source: www.drnikko.com

History indicates, societies such as, Ancient Greece, Victorian Britannia as well as African and Asian cultures have all placed esteem and emphasis on a larger, prominent female buttock. The female derrière has long been a sign of femininity, fertility and erotica. This was not the case in pop culture though – Till recently. Big Butts are everywhere!

Let’s take a gander at these household names:

Kim Kardashian

Nicki Minaj

Buffie Caruth!! (Modern Day Marvel)

Jennifer Lopez (circa 2005)

Coco T(not the reggae artist)

K.Michelle (pure down home, southern , kool-aid drinkin, fried chicken eatin, collards & cornbread Memphis ghetto Ratchetness cake!)

Black Chyna? (the verdict is still out on this one)

 
So, who sets the trend, and who says what is acceptable and desirable? Is it an innate human instinct, ancient history, or the popular women of today’s culture? To quote a close friend, “No amount of surgery can enhance the bizness, if the kitty is NO good it just isn’t good!” LOL wheee…Well, we will leave that one alone for now. What is our overall obsession with the gluteus maximus, and what do you prefer, natural or enhanced?

By the way, if yuh on d fence don’t fret. There are only 74 days left until Trinidad Carnival 2014 at said time you will be able to test drive (take a wine on) all the ARSE yuh want! Meet me on the road in TRIBE 2014! #PhuckyourCAKE!

Here are 10 things to keep in mind when considering dating a man who carries the title of “Da” “Dad” “Daddy” or “Pappa” etc.

10. He may be looking for an escape from reality. Things may’ve become so dysfunctional on the home front, he is not necessarily seeking a real commitment with any woman outside of his child mother but simply a break from his present situation and the stress it carries.  Beware of this one ladies, if d ting sweet, he may then profess he is in love with you both! Make certain you receive clarity on the status of their relationship and his intentions for you.

9. He is one step further away from the goal. If you are seeking marriage, settling down, family life, long term commitment, etc. as your ultimate goal, consider this man carefully. As difficult as it is to meet men ready to commit, the baby daddy may be all the more difficult to lock down. He has already been given the milk without having to buy the cow, and in terms of lifetime commitment he may not be as eager as the conventional single man to walk down the aisle and start a family. Look at it like this, he already has a family.

8. Drama Mamma. She, (de child muddah) might be real trouble, a manipulator, or just plain ole crazy! There may be staged late night phone calls announcing the baby sick, multiple trips to the courthouse for child support payments, and all type of drama. If you are not ready to be a ride or die chick and take on his burdens as your own you may need to go back to square one.

7. Prepare to downsize.  Children are an expense. Period. Unless he is Diddy and can afford child support payments in excess of $40,000 USD per MONTH to an individual carrier of his offspring, then keep in mind his salary is restricted and accounted for prior to ever reaching his account. Also, some countries permit the salary of the spouse or common law wife to be a factor when determining the amount of maintenance the child should receive.  Ask yourself if you can handle the financial responsibility and be prepared to fete on a budget.

6. Multiples. Take what you’ve learned from points 10-7 and multiply it by the number of children and their mothers. Sounds promising? I didn’t think so. If he has multiple baby mudders, RUN! One is enough to deal with but more than one potential headache still holding a flame for your beau , and causing trouble is too much melee.

5. A candidate for the Maury Show. Ladies, we’ve all heard it before, “I wasn’t in no relationship with she!” or “I only bull she one or two times and she tell me she pregnant!” and last but not least the infamous, “I am not that child faddah!” Do I really need to elaborate on this? This reeks of irresponsibility whichever way you examine it. If you stumble upon this particular individual, keep it moving.

4. That B*%@h! Take heed, although she (the baby momma) may very well be ‘hell on wheels’ pay close attention to his choice of words when referring to her. The fact of the matter is she is the mother of his child(ren) and deserves a certain level of respect. If he commonly refers to her as a female dog or any barn yard animal you may need to rethink your position. Regardless of her bad behavior or the situation he should not disrespect the mother of his children, and you should definitely consider if the roles were reversed. As a woman, put yourself in her shoes, what demeaning names would he label you?

3. Congratulations you’re a …Stepmother! Before you take the Nestea plunge, recognize he already has a child(ren) and you will likely be a Stepmother before long. If you are enjoying your childless status ask yourself this question, “Are you ready to co-parent or become a step parent?” If not, you will likely resent his children and “Daddy” status somewhere down the road.

2. ‘SHE’ will always be in the picture. Birthdays, holidays, christenings, graduations, etc. His baby momma will always be in the picture, a major part of his life and inevitably a part of yours so, if you are the jealous type or insecure about the relationship to begin with this may not be the situation for you. It will be an uphill struggle.

1. D occasional horn. Now understanding he will be in constant communication with his child(ren) and subsequently their mother the likelihood of the two taking a romp in the sheets is REAL whether or not she has moved on herself. Depending on how things ended between him and the mother of his child there may or may not be some residual feelings remaining, and given the right opportunity tensions can rise. If you know him well and he fits the description, more than likely he will take a dip in d ole ting every now and again. If you do not mind sharing him this should not be a problem, if not, make certain he is completely over her.