Here at SCORCH, we all believe in bringing the vybz and welcoming anybody who has it with them full-time! Everyone knows that being with the same crew can at times get a bit boring, and sometimes meeting someone new can spice up the lime! On the other hand though, if you are a serial killjoy and need a little advice on how to stop being a home-body and get out there and make some new friends…we have you!
Don’t be a Fahlcon
Fahling can occur in several different ways. Dipping in to a certain conversation that you clearly weren’t a part of, being out of timing in some manner, or simply inviting yourself to places out of the blue. In other words, doh be POOOSHY. If you just relax and be on a normal vibe, friends will come. There’s no need to be over-bearing like the neighbour plum tree jus to fight down no fren ting.
Go with the flow
Yeah, we’re talking to you Anal Annie. Everything doesn’t always to have a structure, or always have to be YOUR way. Be open to new things sometimes. The team is only as strong as its weakest link, and if you have sour vibes right thru, all you gonna be doing is souring the wholeee team vibes. So, please kindly take that stick out of your @$$, and just roll with the punches!
Poke me not
Just a tip, do not send pokes on Facebook….just don’t. This is a crime that no Facebook user should do. I’m sure Zuckerberg had the intention for pokes to be seen as cute, flirty or friendly. However, all it does is give a serious Bill Cosby vibe. If you met a potential friend over the weekend and trying to find a subtle way to start a conversation, jus send a harmless “aye, how are you?”. Because if you send a poke, your “Confirm request” could change into a “Not Now” real quick.
Grow some balls!
Small talk honestly isn’t that hard, and sometimes you have to put yourself out there. Us Trinis are generally friendly people when we want to be, and jus passing a friendly “Hey how are you?”, or a witty greeting can go a long way. People love an easy-going, funny person. So maybe when you next see an acquaintance, don’t be afraid to throw a lil ole talk their way! How else you expect to meet new people?
Have your own personality
Doh change yourself to fit the person/group you started associating with. No one likes a follow fashion. Just be original, be yuhself. If you find yourself not feeling comfortable around the new group/person, then it not worth establishing any kind of long-term friendship. Eventually yuh will mistakenly sneeze-fart in front of them, or need help zipping something near a place where nobody else should see. So bess yuh find a group which fits your own personality, and you can only do that if you embrace and establish your own.
Bring an end to the clique
This mainly goes out to the ladies here. Yeah, we see you at every party and every event. Stand up in a circle with your matching cups filled with whatever ‘dranks’ y’all brought. However, this can be very intimidating, and at times, very annoying. If you are part of a clique, want to make new friends, but only go places with the entire pack, DOH COMPLAIN. The only way to branch out is to dip your toes in the pool lil bit and go out without the crew every once in a while.
