Love them or hate them, you just can’t seem to ignore The Kardashians. The controversial family came into the spotlight when a sex tape featuring Ray J and Kim Kardashian was released in 2007. Later that year the family received their own reality tv show on E network: Keeping up with The Kardashians which has earned them millions and led to two other spin off series. Some praise them, many criticise them but no one has ever stopped and wondered, what can I learn from them…

The Good

Get up and dust yourself off. Kim’s reaction to her Sex tape with Ray J. She did not fall into depression or allow people to bully her into submission, she moved on with her life. Ladies bounce back from your mistakes, forgive yourself and move on. So you made a mistake, all your friends warned you not to go around with the man cause he bad like market crab and you still did it and you fell in love and he horn you with your roommate and now she pregnant with twins and they are planning their wedding. We’ve all made bad decisions in life and as a result found ourselves in sh*tty situations. Do like Kim, hold your head up high and move on. Don’t get stuck replaying the events in your mind.

Started from the bottom!

Seek ways to earn extra money through business ideas. The Kardashians have business acumen. Rather than sitting on their laurels, Kim and her sisters opened retail stores as well as created cosmetics and perfume lines. If you’re a bank teller with a knack for makeup, why not spread the word in your social circle that you’re available to do cosmetics for any event? We ladies should not let an opportunity to make extra income pass. Having a small business that brings in income boosts the morale of women, will increase your independence and keep you busy!

Your health is important. The Kardashian sisters promote their having a healthy lifestyle. On their show, we see all three sisters integrate exercise into their schedule. While the average girl may not be able to afford a full time personal trainer, whether it be a jog around the savannah, exercising at home in front the tv or going to the gym regularly, working out is a great habit to form.

Have confidence! It takes a lot of confidence to put yourself out there! While you may not be on your way to starring on a reality show, follow the kardashian confidence by finding small but productive ways to promote yourself. Are you an entrepreneur? Don’t be afraid to walk with business cards to social events. Are you trying to get more recognition in your particular profession? Start a blog. Not all self-promotion has to be shameless and you never know what opportunities it may lead to.

The Bad

Marry for the right reasons. In 2011 Kim’s marriage to Kris Humphries divorce ended after 72 days- We should marry someone we love and respect. This is someone you are sharing your life with, not an accessory. Many people criticised the reality TV star for using something as sacred as marriage for publicity and money. Ladies respect yourself enough not to rush into marriage for the wrong reasons. Be it for money, security or out of loneliness, please for the sake of yourself and your spouse ensure that this is a decision you can live with.

Don’t get involved with a man who has substance abuse problems or other serious emotional issues. This one is very pertinent because its an issue some of us can personally relate to. Kourtney
Kardashian’s ‘child father’ Scott Disick has had alcohol abuse and anger issues since the beginning of their relationship. Notwithstanding, Kourtney proceeded to have not one, but two children with him. Some of us girls need to learn to think with our head and not just follow our emotions. We’ve seen clips of Scott drunk and misbehaving. Most recently, he was intoxicated at a runway show and tried to pull the designer off the stage. How embarrassing!

Stop Oversharing! I believe this is a problem that is growing into almost epidemic proportions due to social media. In the good old days if you wanted to spread your own business you would tell tanty from down de road and then she would tell miss elsie from in de shop. Now with facebook, twitter and tumblr at our fingertips we can spill our guts in 5 seconds. No one wants to know how you are feeling. Sure facebook asks it, but that doesn’t mean you have to write a facebook status longer than a first page news story answering the who what when why and how. Stop it. The kardashians overshare because they are being paid to. You are not. No one wants to know what brand tampon you use. Now go check your facebook page and see if you are guilty of oversharing.

The Ugly

Nudity and cameras are not the best pair. Although the sex tape Kim Kardashian made in 2007 with then boyfriend Ray J led to her fame, recording intimate activity is NEVER a good idea for us regular girls. It can and most likely will have a horrible effect on your reputation, lead to strained relations with family members, shame and make out scene. No one wants that. Not to mention the disastrous effect it will have on your professional life. You don’t want people in the office snickering when you pass as they gather by a computer to rate your ‘skills’.

Having a husband and a boyfriend at the same time is never a good idea. In 2012 Kim begun a relationship with rapper Kanye West which led to her pregnancy (while still being legally married to Humphries).This move was disappointing and may I add a bit classless. Ladies having a husband and a ‘child father’ is not a place you want to be in life!! Wait until the divorce, not separation is official before you embark on a new serious relationship it will save you a lot of embarrassment and pain.

Don’t become the man of the house. In the reality show, Kris was definitely ‘wearing the pants’. Ladies just because you may earn more than your significant other does not give you the right to boss up de man! Kris took Bruce for granted, did not show him enough attention because she focused on the career of her daughters. The result of this is that after 22 years of marriage the pair are now separated. This comes as hardly a surprise since Bruce Jenner had been living in another house for the last few months because he did not have freedom in his own home. Kris took all the power from Bruce, leaving him feeling like he lacked control in his own home. We can learn from this that men are our equals, don’t treat them as children, order them around or restrict their movements in their own home! Treat your spouse with respect and love.